Essays Editor
Sam Whitford
Sam writes the longer essays — the ones about limerence, first love, situationships, and why heartbreak feels physical. Believes in citing your sources and trusting your gut, in that order.
M.F.A., Iowa Writers' Workshop. Essays in The Atlantic, Catapult.
Articles by Sam Whitford

How to Get Over an Ex You Still See Every Day
When you can't go full no contact — same office, same friend group, same gym — you need 'contained contact.' Here's how to heal anyway.

How to Get Over a Situationship (When It Wasn't Even a Relationship)
Getting over a situationship is harder than a breakup — there's no closure, no label, no friends asking how you're doing. Here's how to grieve something that 'wasn't anything.'

How to Get Over Your First Love
Your first love hits the brain harder than every breakup after — it's encoded in places later loves can't reach. Here's why, and how to actually move on.

Why Yelling at an AI Is Actually Good for Your Breakup
Yelling at an AI sounds dumb. It also turns out to be one of the most underrated breakup tools. Here's the actual reason it works, neuroscience and all.

Does Journaling Actually Help You Get Over a Breakup?
Yes, journaling helps you heal from a breakup, but only if you do it the right way. Here's what the research says about expressive writing after heartbreak.

The Best AI Companions for Emotional Support in 2026
AI companion apps range from ChatGPT to dedicated mental-health bots to breakup-specific voice agents. Honest comparison and which one fits which need.